REPLY #5 TO
"LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS"
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(R) First of all I admire your courage to in trying to put some reason about
love and marriage. Thats a really touchy subject depending largely on one's own
experience and perception. I've been trying to put up webpage with the same
theme and I'm still working on it. Hopefully I would get a lot of feed
(MB) Since it's a subject that we must all become directly involved with at some
point in our lives, everybody should have some sort of opinion about it.
Unfortunately, a lot of those opinions end up being forced onto people by their
religion or by their social group(s). Given the numbers of bad marriages and
relationships and general hangups, I'd say that the traditional ways of dealing
with the subject are an abject failure.
(R) Anyway as a response to your essay, there is some truth in there
(MB) That's generally what I hope to
(R) I don't know if you have been married or still are.
(MB) My wife probably still thinks that I
(R) Base on my own experience I believe that love in a marriage goes beyond
human reasoning. To truly love someone, one must deny one's own reasoning, then
and only then one can truly love another. The problem with most marriages right
now is that most individual are not willing to deny one's principles in life to
really understand where the other person is coming from. We listen to respond
not to understand. The word love by itself is pure of any reasoning. It can
not be define by bounderies. Its not a sacrifice of ones life either but a
committment to the spiritual well being of another.
(MB) Love, as they say, may be "blind", but I don't think that this necessarily
means that one must abandon reason to find love. On the contrary, I think that
the best and strongest love must come from the application of reason. In other
words, one must know *why* they love another person if there's to be much hope
of it enduring. When someone abandons their own principles for the sake of
love, that may work for the short term. But, is that a good thing? Should one
be other than they truly are just for the sake of love? And, if they do so,
won't there always be nagging doubts, insecurities, and uneasyness about it?
Why not be yourself totally and wait for the person to come along who will be
willing to love you for who you really are? That's the person with whom one
could have a truly solid and long-lasting relationship.